Re: Boy Girl Talk/Does Co Ed Sea Scouting Work
Marc A Scimonelli (email@example.com)
Thu, 19 Jun 1997 12:57:38 -0400
Honestly, I think that Co Ed sea scouting works beautifully. Whils some
ships choose to be all boy or all girl, that is ultimately their
decision, and for whatever reasons, the right choice for them. I
personally believe that having the ships Co Ed really helps with real
world experiences. Some girls come in from the matriarchal Girl Scouts
and some boys come in from the Patriarchal Boy Scouts. For the guys, it
helps show them that "Hey, girls are just as able as we are, " and for
the girls, it shows them an opportunity to prove that. I have had a
female bosun who I served under, and while our leading styles differed,
she was a good bosun for the time that we were under. She had a very soft
style about her, but everyone respected and admired her, and she won that
respect through her good leadership and soft spoken nature. I guess she
just follwed the whole rpincipal of "Speak softly and carry a big stick."
It worked for her, so I guess Teddy Rosevelt was right on that one.
Secondly, the best scout leader I've ever had the pleasure of working
with was last year's NER Boatswain, Amanda Kellaher. One of the guys in
my ship asked me once what he would have to do to become Boatswain.
Almost at the exact same moment, Amanda was handling a problem with one
of the Regatta Judges, and she was doing a beautiful job of it too. I
told him "Watch her. Listen, and you'll learn from the best." I'm just
saying that I've never seen any of the female scouts roll over and let
the men lead the way.
While yes, for the past 3 years we have had a male Boatswain, Next year
could prove to be different. A lot of the girls that have wanted to be
better leaders or were a little too ambitious last year have done what
they need to in order to be in good standing for boatswain next year.
As far as relationships go...we have had more people join because of them
than people quit because of them ending. In fact, I don't think we've had
anyone quit because of a relationship ending. "My" ship is very close nit
and family like. When a couple is having a problem, we will all help in
what ever way possible, be it taking the guy out to some social area to
find girls to get his mind off of her, or the girls taking the girl out
to do whatever they may do (I've never actually been involved in the post
relationship ways of the girls, so I could only speculate), and sometimes
we just mediate the argument, and it works. But we all know that we
aren't at scouts to be with our significant others..we're there to
As far as I'm concerned, Co Ed Scouting not only works...it benefits.