Does Co-Ed Sea Scouting Work!
William H. Sills (email@example.com)
Wed, 18 Jun 1997 22:39:18 -0500
Jack Durish wrote:
> I've been watching the banter between the genders with some interest and
> I think that it leads to a valid discussion for leaders and youth. What
> are your views about all-boy, all-girl, and co-ed Sea Scout Ships.
> When I was a Sea Scout on the Chesapeake Bay during the late 50's, there
> were no girls in Sea Scouting and we spent a fair amount of time lusting
> after the daughters of the members of the Baltimore Yacht Club where we
> kept our boats.
> Then I grew up and had a daughter. She joined a co-ed unit in Dana Point
> and I often envied the relationships that I saw between the boys and
> girls of that ship. They were able to have friendships independent of
> the usual hormone driven ones. Sometimes, the girls would ask their male
> shipmates for advice concerning their problems with their boyfriends and
> Unfortunately, when a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship
> developed, it didn't end well. When they split, one would feel compelled
> to abandon ship. Frankly, I gave them the same advice that is given in
> business - don't spoil your own nest!
> When I formed my own unit, it was co-ed. Again, I believe that the boy -
> girl shipmates were a good idea. Occassionally, one would feel
> romantically inclined towards a shipmate, but it never developed into
> anything. Unfortunately, the situation turned sour when a girl joined
> the ship who was especially "hormone-driven" and felt that every other
> girl in the ship was after "her man." This led to some tense moments and
> I was glad when she failed to re-register for her second year.
> All the girls are gone now and we are boys-only. But not by choice. I
> think I will do some recruiting aimed specifically at girls this fall.
> Unless any of you have any compelling reasons why we should not again
> become a co-ed ship.
> Any thoughts?
> Jack Durish
> Buccaneers - SSS 935
> Mission Viejo, CA
"My" ship SSS HATHOR (1) became co-ed when BSA allowed ships to do
so on an experimental basis many years ago. We have had girl bosns but
the last one was 1n 88-89, I believe. Because of romances having gone
awry, we registered girls in ship 3 but had everyone meet together
except during periods of "romantic tension. That system has worked for
many years. However, the girls in SSS Gail & Gloria Gartz (3) <two
sisters that won many ice boat and scow championships> became
independent <what a surprise> and now operate on their own. All of our
other ships are VERY co-ed. We have a lot of full squadron meetings
which is the way we did things when I was a kid. I believe that most of
today's ships meet separately all of the time.
I'm convinced that there has to be a mechanism for the kids to
separate and cool off after "failed" romances. My experience was the
girls dropped out in support. Also, few kids ever have returned after
dropping out. Allowing them time to forget the old one and get a new one
keeps them in Sea Scouting AND seems to help them remain friends.
The co-ed ship's crew members have different relationships than
boys and girls did when I was an Air Scout. They are friends in the true
sense. They relate to each other as brothers and sisters, treat each
other as equals and generally appear to regard each other as human
beings. My thoughts toward Mariner Scouts at dances were a bit different
I have to be a much more aggressive recruiter of girls. The boys
self-perpetuate. The girls, in my experience, do not. Otherwise, co-ed
Sea Scouting works well for us.
SSS HATHOR (1)