Re: Boy - Girl Talk
K. Wickward (email@example.com)
Wed, 18 Jun 1997 20:24:50 -0700 (PDT)
Obviously, I've thought a lot about the boy girl thing. Some very healthy
relationships grew out of the fact that our ship was coed, but I have come
to notice that many of the girls that joined, including myself, really did
not have (or take) the opportunity to develop the kind of self reliance
and confidence that is normally what the boys developed when they were
members. I don't know why-and many years of feminist psychology classes
have been of little help-this is the case, but I think it is possible that
all-girl crews have a potential to help young women develop a kind of
confidence that is difficult to develop otherwise.
It sounds like there are a lot of kick-booty all women crews out there.
Some of them even make the America's Cup.
On Wed, 18 Jun 1997, Jack Durish wrote:
> I've been watching the banter between the genders with some interest and
> I think that it leads to a valid discussion for leaders and youth. What
> are your views about all-boy, all-girl, and co-ed Sea Scout Ships.
> When I was a Sea Scout on the Chesapeake Bay during the late 50's, there
> were no girls in Sea Scouting and we spent a fair amount of time lusting
> after the daughters of the members of the Baltimore Yacht Club where we
> kept our boats.
> Then I grew up and had a daughter. She joined a co-ed unit in Dana Point
> and I often envied the relationships that I saw between the boys and
> girls of that ship. They were able to have friendships independent of
> the usual hormone driven ones. Sometimes, the girls would ask their male
> shipmates for advice concerning their problems with their boyfriends and
> Unfortunately, when a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship
> developed, it didn't end well. When they split, one would feel compelled
> to abandon ship. Frankly, I gave them the same advice that is given in
> business - don't spoil your own nest!
> When I formed my own unit, it was co-ed. Again, I believe that the boy -
> girl shipmates were a good idea. Occassionally, one would feel
> romantically inclined towards a shipmate, but it never developed into
> anything. Unfortunately, the situation turned sour when a girl joined
> the ship who was especially "hormone-driven" and felt that every other
> girl in the ship was after "her man." This led to some tense moments and
> I was glad when she failed to re-register for her second year.
> All the girls are gone now and we are boys-only. But not by choice. I
> think I will do some recruiting aimed specifically at girls this fall.
> Unless any of you have any compelling reasons why we should not again
> become a co-ed ship.
> Any thoughts?
> Jack Durish
> Buccaneers - SSS 935
> Mission Viejo, CA