Boy - Girl Talk
Jack Durish (email@example.com)
Wed, 18 Jun 1997 19:55:54 -0700
I've been watching the banter between the genders with some interest and
I think that it leads to a valid discussion for leaders and youth. What
are your views about all-boy, all-girl, and co-ed Sea Scout Ships.
When I was a Sea Scout on the Chesapeake Bay during the late 50's, there
were no girls in Sea Scouting and we spent a fair amount of time lusting
after the daughters of the members of the Baltimore Yacht Club where we
kept our boats.
Then I grew up and had a daughter. She joined a co-ed unit in Dana Point
and I often envied the relationships that I saw between the boys and
girls of that ship. They were able to have friendships independent of
the usual hormone driven ones. Sometimes, the girls would ask their male
shipmates for advice concerning their problems with their boyfriends and
Unfortunately, when a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship
developed, it didn't end well. When they split, one would feel compelled
to abandon ship. Frankly, I gave them the same advice that is given in
business - don't spoil your own nest!
When I formed my own unit, it was co-ed. Again, I believe that the boy -
girl shipmates were a good idea. Occassionally, one would feel
romantically inclined towards a shipmate, but it never developed into
anything. Unfortunately, the situation turned sour when a girl joined
the ship who was especially "hormone-driven" and felt that every other
girl in the ship was after "her man." This led to some tense moments and
I was glad when she failed to re-register for her second year.
All the girls are gone now and we are boys-only. But not by choice. I
think I will do some recruiting aimed specifically at girls this fall.
Unless any of you have any compelling reasons why we should not again
become a co-ed ship.
Buccaneers - SSS 935
Mission Viejo, CA