scouts-l Mail Archive for August of 2000: New 18 year old scout and names
Rik Bergethon (rberg@RMI.NET
Sun Aug 20 2000 - 09:31:53 CDT
Yes, you have brought up an important part of being an adult leader, the
manner in which the scouts should address you. I realize I may start a
completely new thread, but how the boys address the adults is important.
I am a believer in the "Mr." and "Mrs." routine.
A short story to start this off. With a name like Bergethon, figured
the boys would have trouble pronouncing it, so I encouraged them to call
me Mr. B. Then Richard Anderson joined the troop with his son, he was
Mr. A. From another Webelos den came John Chatham, Mr. C. Things were
going fine until a year later, when Dennis Reed joined with his
Grandson. Hmmm, how about Mr. D? Then came Randy Edwards, with his son,
Mr. E. We're on a roll now!
Then came a new gung-ho, Wood Badge trained, Cubmaster with his two
sons, who also was the District Commissioner, Arnie Carlsen. What to do,
what to do? Arnie suggested, since he didn't have the time to do much
with the troop since he had another job, we just go with Mr. AC-DC
(Arnie Carlsen, District Commissioner).
Regardless of our initials, I feel it is important the scouts learn how
to work with adults and people who are older than they are and to
address them as Mister or Missus, until told to do otherwise. Years
ago, I had one of the scout's Moms as my second adult at summer camp.
She was Ms. Jones, although the boys had trouble with the Z sound and
usually said it like Miss Jones.
I have seen many teachers address each other that way in school, but by
their first names in the mall. "Good morning Mrs. Smith" turns into "Hi
Marge" at the mall. Scouting is not school, but there needs to be some
form of respect or recognition shown by the boys. In my job today, I
meet lots of new clients or potential clients. I introduce myself by
full name, let them introduce themselves and say: Mr. Smith, it's nice
to meet you, may I call you Bob? We, as adult leaders need to get the
boys used to titles with names. They do it in schools, why can't we do
it in scouts? As part of setting the example, I think we should also
address each other by Mr. or Missus in the troop activities.
Rik Bergethon, Mr. B