scouts-l Mail Archive for July of 2000: Scout Report card
Bob Lazell (rlazell@QED.NET
Sun Jul 23 2000 - 06:14:03 CDT
>I think a "report card" would provide a starting point for discussions and
> easier for me/other scoutmasters to get organized before talking to
> Does anyone out there use this approach? Any suggestions? Any resources?
The spirit of this suggest is laudable (helping the boys) However, may I
suggest that Scouting should not be one more entity in a child's life in
which adults *tell* his how to act and *grade* his behavior. Try looking at
the Troop first as boy run and second as a place where you are a guide and a
model, and this list loves to quote B.P. "be of the boys"
I believe that as Scoutmasters, we serve the boys best when we are as true
to that spirit as possible. All my boys know from day one that it is their
troop and I am their confidant and guide. They decide what I can and cannot
discuss with their parents (outside of safety and serious issues that may
have to be professionally addressed, but, even then I will discuss with the
boy the fact that I will be speaking to his parents) I also never publicly
chastise them in anything but a comradely fashion. All my "adult" to
"child" interactions where I address any behavior issues and things that
might be covered in report card (such as advancement or lack thereof) I
take care of in SM conferences which I hold both formally before advancement
an constantly on a ad hoc basis.
So, what does this get me? Or rather, what does this get the boys? it
provides a place where a boy trusts the adult in their midst, and he knows
that whatever the problem, it will be handled between them in a way the
respects the boy. It gives the boys a place where they are free to make
mistakes and be guided rather than punished.
Today's boy has enough pressures and people grading him. Scouting is a
place where a boy chooses to be graded if he wishes by advancement in rank,
it is not, and should not be required by adults and parents. Scouting
should be a safe haven from both hazing by their peers and the hazing the we
often try to pass off as adult behavior.
Oh, and as a bonus you will find yourself collecting some very deep
friendships as the boys grow into men. You will be someone these young men
turn to for many years beyond their Boy Scouting days. You will be there
for them and they will be there for you.
Bob Lazell, SM
Valley Cottage, NY