scouts-l Mail Archive for June of 2000: Follow up on table manners
Roman J. Smith (Roman.J.Smith.13@ND.EDU
Tue Jun 27 2000 - 07:11:19 CDT
I have exchanged a lot of messages yesterday and today over my post. But
it is all a larger issues. Not only is politeness at the table important,
but boys have to learn HOW to eat in public. They need to know how to use
a fork and knife, how to pick up vegetables. Imagine your daughter coming
home from the prom disgusted that her date embarrassed her at dinner.
Some of our boys have no clue as what is expected in public. Some have
never eaten at a restaurant other than McDonalds. When the camp table is
the first time that anyone address how to eat, there is a problem. It is
not enough to just let someone eat the way they do at home IF they think
that is the way the rest of the world eats when they get together.
Sometimes we need to teach more than social graces. Sometimes we need to
teach that THERE REALLY ARE SOCIAL GRACES, a concept that is missing in
some boys. Disgusting eating habits are a sign that a boy needs some
additional coaching. But first we must convince them that they need
further coaching. That is the real issue. We need to show them that what
they do at home is not acceptable outside the home.
Scouting should help boys become men. I do not expect every boy to be part
of refined society. I do want my scouts to be able to be invited to
parties and dinners and not be signaled out for odd behaviors. I want them
to have a chance to become whatever they want and function on a level that
gets them there.
Roman J. Smith, SM Troop 505 / CM, Ship 505
-I used to be an Owl