scouts-l Mail Archive for June of 2000: Re: Table manners
Dave Loomis (dloomis@NH.ULTRANET.COM
Mon Jun 26 2000 - 12:59:48 CDT
Not having read "Space Cadet" recently, I can't comment on that
viewpoint, but I have lived an several different cultures, and feel
that, "When in Rome..." applies here. Two other truisms also come to
mind, "Don't make waves. and Don't pull on Superman's cloak."
I feel that it is wise to quietly observe how the locals are eating,
and try to copy their ways, as a matter of politeness, rather than make
comments like, "Well, we don't eat fried banannas at home!" when in the
presence of those who do. As Heinein has mentioned on other occasions,
"mere" courtesy is not mere, it is the oil or grease society uses to
lubricate various rub points, to eliminate cross cultural friction.
Trying to get this concept across to a Scout age boy may be
difficult...I and several of my friends with teen aged sons fought many
battles about, what to us are, simple issues like bathing frequently,
and cleaning one's room.
Perhaps something along the line of table rules, such as, "Ask don't
reach. Insure that everyone has lad firsts before taking/asking for
seconds. Don't share eating utensils. etc., etc." discussed before meals
will bring him into compliance with whatever you have decided is a
modicum of table manners.
The military has more direct ways of dealing with exceeding norms, but
they are a bit rough and don't fit in with Scout life.
"Roman J. Smith" wrote:
> O.K. I know that the scouts need to learn common meal customs and that
> eating in public requires common culinary etiquette. But how do I convey
> both the concept and the standards? What do I tell the parents when they
> ask why I do not allow their son to eat the way they taught them? Most
> scouts will accept the troop and camp standards, but what about the
> Roman J. Smith,
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