scouts-l Mail Archive for June of 2000: Re: Volunteers vs. Professionals
Janyce Wright (justjanw@HOTMAIL.COM
Fri Jun 23 2000 - 12:39:36 CDT
Hi Bill and List.
Let me take a shot, 'K? Good question. Honest dilemma. Obvious
caring. Two-sided. First step? Don't panic. Assess. Reflect. Decide.
>From my experience: Assessment
Side 1: My kids, my troop, my experience and understanding of
the program. Plus my 'Mama Tiger' buttons, my understanding and
experience of my kids (my own and/or my troop or kids in
general), my ego, my attitude.
Side 2: Their authority, their training, their experience,
their overall goals and responsibilities, their careers, their
caring for Scouts in general. Plus, their personal weakspots,
their egos, their attitudes.
Addendum to 1.
In the past, when I'm tired, surprised, too hungry, sleep
deprived, angry, or otherwise resource challenged, my attitude
sucks pond water. I can change that by taking the appropriate
remedial action. And sometimes I'm just a goof. But mostly I'm
a reasonable caring "kind-hearted" (as my one grandson said
when he introduced me to his class at school) Scouter.
Addendum to 2.
Since the Pros started out as human beings, I've gotta give
them the same assessment as Addemdum to 1.
That being said, from my experience, when the strife is too
recent, I had to take time out. Get the sleep, get the meal,
get the info or training I needed to have a less personal,
clearer perspective on the situation. Now, I'm not always
gracious or attractive while I'm in this process. I tend to
(gag) whine, berate, stomp, etc. I do try to keep most of that
in check and one-on-one in confidence.
Boils down to what I can change. I can change my attitude.
I can change my grasp of the program. I can accept coaching
from those who are not in the thick of the situation but who
have Scouting's best interests at heart. I can cooly work for
any change I reasonably believe needs to happen.
In my experience, we all just want what we want. The key for
me is to determine realistically what hill I'm prepared to
die on. So far, the problems of the past have worked out,
some without my help. And the amazing thing is that people
who only want their own way end up hurting themselves. Lost
careers, reputations. Like my grandaddy used to say(He was a
man, you know.) Cream will always rise to the top.
Bless your heart(He said that, too.)
YiS Janyce Wright
Troop 16 Advancement
Wood Badge Regal Eagle
Beginning Unit Commissioner