scouts-l Mail Archive for May of 2000: Scout Spirit
Fri May 12 2000 - 15:29:38 CDT
>now, we have a kid on the final stretch to Eagle, who presently does not
>have his heart in the program.
>your thoughts on what to do, if anything, would be appreciated; not only
>for this Scout, but for those who follow in this particular unit.
I am still licking my wounds from a similar experience and wanted to humbly add
what I have learned the last few years from our program. In most cases, this is
a family problem because it's the parent who wants the Eagle, not the Scout.
Everyday I work with Scouts, I become more disappointed with adults and
increasingly impressed with our youth.
When a Scout like this starts working aggressively towards Eagle, the SM needs
to call the Scout and his parents together to explain the expectations of the
Scout earning Eagle. Give clear task, goals and expectations of the Scout's
behavior. Start as soon as you can, don't wait to ambush the Scout with your
expectations when he ask for the Eagle SM conference.
Hold the quality of your program high, but measure each Scouts performance
individually. Don't give the Scout unrealistic goals or expect dramatic changes
in his growth. Don't expect miracles and don't compare one Scout against
another. Realistically we can't change behavior, we can only teach and guide
habits that lead to good behavior.
Always use compassion when working with Scouts because it will take your EGO out
of the Scouts performance.
On a side, one day while discussing this problem with a very good SM friend of
mine, he told me that he sits down with all his new parents, gives them sheet of
paper that declares their son an Eagle, then he says "as far as I am concerned,
your son is an Eagle, now let's focus on the real reason your son is in
Scouting". I kind of like that idea.