scouts-l Mail Archive for April of 2000: Before anyone gets the wrong idea
Fri Apr 14 2000 - 13:42:11 CDT
You write and edit and write and edit and you cut out some things.
Things are tough in the house right now because of Chris but despite the way
it finally turned out in the effort to cut lines, we're not accusing each
other of responsibility in something related to genetics we couldn't control,
instead its more of an internal fight to comprehend what is occurring and one
individual feeling that they are specifically to blame.
To the point we changed to a new pattern yesterday after Troop meeting and
went through a nice "why did you marry me?" discussion. Which I hope I
handled well by telling her genetics is a crap shoot and I weighed everything
wrong on both sides of our families before I took any steps. But this IS NOT
a discussion I expected to have only months short of our 20th, you would
think there would be a trust level and an understanding, but things like this
rip it all to shreds.
So no one think I'm accusing my wife of anything, she's been told by her
doctors that she carries the gene, and then she started assigning blame to
herself, then tried dumping it on everyone else, and now is starting to
realize, as the blood drawing comes close, that there is no use fighting
whatever the gene pool throws you, just work with it.
I found a Fra x mailing list like Scouts-L yesterday, signed on and the first
three or four messages described things with Chris to a 'T', so I sent it on
to my wife. I only hope she took the instructions and followed them when she
was on the computer this morning. By the way, they tend to like to call the
kids fraggles for a reason I have not yet determined.
Once again, imagine what could be happening in the families of your Scouts.
Look for things that show a change of interest and ask questions. It could be
something like this.
And YOU may not want to handle it, but odds are, with a little thinking and
looking at the family, you'll know someone who CAN help them, whether church
or community or whatever.
I'm biting the bullet and telling the SM the facts today so he can check with
#2 on how he feels from time to time because theres a lot a kid won't tell
dad he'll tell someone else....