scouts-l Mail Archive for April of 2000: Re: Sir Names?
Julia Burnham-Kren (JABarts61@AOL.COM
Mon Apr 10 2000 - 12:48:18 CDT
Jeff wrote: <<...Do the Scouts of your Troop refer to the adult leaders by
their first names or their sir names?>>
In the Troop my son will be joining, the adults' surnames is always used as a
sign of respect. The SM has asked the boys to call him by a shorter last name
(his name is really long and hard to pronounce).
When my boys were little I made sure they referred to adults as Mr., Mrs.,
Miss or Ms.. First names put you on the same level, make you equal in a way.
They may make the child more comfortable with you, but make the line of
authority less defined. They are more apt to talk back to you and question
your authority if they feel they are on equal terms with you. It is much
harder to insult a person or yell at someone you have to call Mr. or Mrs. (I
didn't say it was impossible, just harder).
My own boys even call me "Mrs. Kren" at meetings and Pack Nights.
Pack 236/Tall Grass Dst./DesPlaines Valley Council/Illinois