Scouts-L Mail Archive for December of 1999: Re: Demographics
Wed, 22 Dec 1971 16:10:59 -0500
On Wed, 22 Dec 1999, Katherine Coates wrote:
> My two cents on the single-parent dilema:
> Since most of the single parents are mothers, the most frequent excuse I hear
> from them for not putting their sons in scouting is the lack of a FATHER to
Speaking from an extremely limited experience as a single-parent (my
husband was out of the country for a month), the issue isn't so much lack
of a Father as it is lack of a second person. One person can't be at the
Scout meeting with Junior AND at the grocery with Sis. One person who
gets home at 6 can't fix and serve dinner and get Junior and herself back
out to a 7:30 meeting. One person can't pick up Junior down-county at
4:30 and Sis up-county at 5, and be back down-county in time to have
dinner before a 7pm meeting. And if that one person is having to use
public transit -- forget the whole scenario.
I see the same TYPE of problems in families with two children and two
jobs; You can't leave the younger one alone while you run the older one
to Scouts, and when the weather's bad, it doesn't seem RIGHT to drag the
younger one out just because the older one has to get to Scouts, and it's
not quite fair to have the ASM pick him up every time, and it's too far
for him to walk by himself.
And then there's the issue of, if Mom isn't "into" Scouts, is she going
to want to haul her assets out again after she gets home from work?
Consider -- how many of you go to Local History Society meetings after
work if you're not particularly into local history?
One person, one place, one time. And remember, it's not an issue of what
WE here think, it's an issue of what do those who AREN'T here think.
Until we can tap into that somehow, we're preaching to the choir, which
is fun but unprofitable for increasing the size of the choir.