scouts-l Mail Archive for November of 1999: Re: Arrow of Light
Cheryl Singhal (csinghal@CAPACCESS.ORG
Mon Nov 22 1999 - 08:29:21 CST
On Sun, 21 Nov 1999, Susan Best wrote:
> At 08:41 PM 11/20/99 -0500, Bruce E. Cobern wrote:
> Maybe if two or three troops say the same thing
> >the parents will begin to believe that it just might not be in their son's
> If the boy is that age because he skipped grades, he is already attending
> school with boys a year or two older. Hopefully, if the school advanced
Attending school with and being friends with are two separate issues. He
may sit in classes with kids 3 years older, but do THEY consider him
It *may* be the best answer, only people who know the Scout in question
can determine that.
But, both sides have merit.
Remember when you were in school -- until you reached the point where
you changed classmates for every class, if you were in Miss Jo's
3rd grade class you had nothing in common with either Mr. Ralph's 4th
graders or Miss Sue's 2nd graders OR with Mr. Fred's 3rd graders. When I
was in 6th grade, I had cousins in the other class whom I never saw at
school (it was A-J in one class and K-Z in the other). My social set --at
school-- was my school class; at home, it was the neighborhood, where
one neighbor was 3 yrs older, one 1 yr older, two 2 yrs younger and so
on; at Church, it was the Sunday School class which had some overlap
with school but not a lot.
IF the older boys accept the younger as "one of us" then sure, keep him
with his school mates.
But if the older boys at school in school treat the kid as a pariah,
don't make him take it at Scouts too. A 14-yr-old who is constantly
shown up by a 12-yr-old isn't going to be reliably civil.
Still, both sides have merit and this one really is going to need to be
decided on a case-by-case basis by people who ALL have the big picture.
Too often, the parent sees only what they expect/want/prefer to see
(yeah, yeah, even me! -g-) but an outsider sees another dynamic.