scouts-l Mail Archive for November of 1999: Re: Boys and Discipline
Judy Yeager (jscout@HOTMAIL.COM
Fri Nov 05 1999 - 00:19:25 CST
Wendell Brown wrote, in part, "Working on CSBLT I hear this all the time and
I try to point out that it MAY be our expectation of our son's behavior
instead of his ACTUAL behavior that is the problem! I know for a fact that
I expect better behavior from my son than the other boys, even though I
"know" this isn't fair. How many times have you said to your son "you have
to set an example..."? I know I have said this and then been disappointed
when my son acted no worse (better?) than some of the other guys.
We have to cut or own kids the same amount of slack that we cut the
other boys and even though we will always be more critical of our own
sons we shouldn't "punish" them for just being boys."
When I work with new Den Leaders at CSBLT, I point out that when you put on
your uniforms, you are no longer parent/son. In uniform, your son is just
another Scout and is to be treated no differently than any other Scout.
When that Scout (the one who just happens to live with you) needs to be
disciplined, you are a Scout Leader disciplining a Scout, not a parent
disciplining a child. Hard to do, but will benefit both of you!
Another point, remember that the ones who are the hardest to love probably
need it the most!
. . .and a good ole' Bobwhite and BRAND NEW Antelope, too. . .
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