scouts-l Mail Archive for November of 1999: Re: Boys and Discipline
Thu Nov 04 1999 - 09:54:11 CST
In my daughter's coop nursery school, there is a phenomenon known as "parent
helper syndrome" with the symptoms being that your otherwise beautifully
behaved child becomes the child from h*ll when you're there. In our pack,
we've found it works very well if leaders don't work with their own sons'
dens. Perhaps easier to manage for us, because we all meet at the same time
in the same place (can you say "pandemonium"?).
From: Wendell Brown
Sent: 11/04/1999 9:52 AM
Subject: Re: Boys and Discipline
On Wed, 3 Nov 1999 19:21:52 -0600, Dianna Young wrote:
>I thought I was the only mother who had to kick
>her son out of meetings.
Working on CSBLT I hear this all the time and I try to point out that
it MAY be our expectation of our son's behavior instead of his ACTUAL
behavior that is the problem! I know for a fact that I expect better
behavior from my son than the other boys, even though I "know" this
isn't fair. How many times have you said to your son "you have to set
an example..."? I know I have said this and then been disappointed
when my son acted no worse (better?) than some of the other guys.
We have to cut or own kids the same amount of slack that we cut the
other boys and even though we will always be more critical of our own
sons we shouldn't "punish" them for just being boys.
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