Scouts-L Mail Archive for June of 1999: Needed-Voices of Experience
Needed-Voices of Experience
Tue, 29 Jun 1999 00:52:01 -0600
Here is a situation that needs your voice of experience, your point of view
and reflection. The following message includes the comments, query &
response between myself & a fellow Wood Badge Patrol mate.
Thanks in advance for your comments on or off Scouts-L
Prairielands Council, Champaign, IL
C-19-97 Bear Patrol
>My youngest son, Anson just got his Star
>tonight. He just joined the troop thirteen months ago. He didn't do
>this on paper...he is not a paper Star. Anyway, can
>you tell that I am just a little proud of my sons?
Response III: Yes, and this is the way it's best !
>Third and last is my dilemma. I need some advice from people that I
>know I can trust to tell me exactly what they believe and maybe not just
>what I want to hear. So shoot from the hip on this one guys, please.
>Anson has been camping with us since he was a Tiger Cub and I told Jim I
>had a feeling that when Anson crossed over that he would hit the ground
>running because of his experiences, and we wouldn't be able to stop
>him. Well, he did just that. He now outranks some boys that are four
>years older than him and have been in the troop since they were eleven.
>Anson is only eleven and is Star. At the rate he is going, he could
>theoretically be an Eagle by the time he is thirteen. Aaron made Eagle
>when he was sixteen after sitting out a year, so he could have done it
>at fifteen. I am proud of both of them, but was somewhat embarrassed
>tonight because we gave a First Class to a thirteen year old boy who was
>very proud of his accomplishment. In Anson's case, it looks like
>Scoutmaster favoritism. It most certainly isn't, as Jim wouldn't even
>allow me to be at Anson's board of review...wise move on Jim's part.
>But perception can be an ugly thing sometimes. My question is, what
>would you do? Would you slow him down and break his momentum and
>possibly risk losing his interest, or just let him forge ahead at his
>own desired pace and let the chips fall where they may?
Response IV: I am facing the same situation with my son Clay: he
received his Star rank at our May Court of Honor and he will turn 12 in
We're in the midst of the same questions and reflections. Hot pursuit or
Also, our troop is undergoing some changes with a new Scoutmaster so the
procedures and program will more likely than not duplicate last year's
There is a likelihood that Clay will be 'tapped out' this week at the
Council Summer Camp.
I am hoping that some new excitement and challenges with OA will pick up
the needed slack that his age presents, to keep a positive Scouting
momentum while time is marked for the ripening of his age relative to Life
& Eagle Ranks.
>From watching his interest (he is attending 2 weeks of week-long summer
camp) he will probably bust through to Life Scout in 6 to 8 months.
Hopefully, the monthly troop program will be sufficiently different to
attract his continued interest relative to sports, school, girls, etc.
On occasion he has talked of taking two to three years after Life rank to
experience Troop activities, and to plan and complete his Eagle Project. I
am cuurently looking for Out-of-Council and Extra-troop-curricular
activities for he and I to attend, benefit from, and to kept the coals
kindled in his spirit.
Alas, a reflection of a scouting parent.
Alas, the parent of a kid with excellent attendance, and scouting skills.
Alas, a kid who can be a benefit for his fellow scouts and friends.
If only we provide the breath of air, as they bring the spark, tinder, and
YIS, Gary Apfelstadt