Scouts-L Mail Archive for June of 1999: SM Minuutes
Mark W Arend
Wed, 16 Jun 1999 20:54:42 -0500
Joan Lloyd is a columnist in the Milwaukee Journal that I like to read.
She recently had an article about lessons she has learned in her work
life. Here are a few comments from her column:
The biggest learning comes from the biggest failures. After the pain
fades, take a step back, separate the learning from the emotion, and look
at your failure objectively. If you make excuses you may well repeat the
same type of mistake again. If you learn from it you may do better the
Listen to your inner voice & values. When you get that nagging feeling
that just won't go away, or find yourself over-justifying the action
you're about to take, stop and think it over. Perhaps you should
re-think your decision.
What goes around comes around. The more you move into the world, the
more dirty tricks or bad behavior you see. Even though this may bring
people initial success eventually these things do catch up with people in
the long run.
Don't take yourself too seriously. Every one of us makes incredibly
stupid mistakes and say and do dumb things. Have the self-confidence to
be able to laugh at your mistakes.
I recently read a deceptivly simple comment: Everyone defines success
differently. It brought back memories of my first job. A friend and I
used to play chess on our lunch hours. Now, we were fairly evenly
matched but he was a little bit better player than I and nine times out
of ten he would win. This didn't bother me too much because I was
looking for a good game and that's what I got. When I did win it was
great but it was a little extra pleasure--the "frosting on the cake" as
the saying goes.
But my friend was always very upset when he lost. He wanted to win and
was mad when he didn't.
This is true in every aspect of life. In the workplace some people work
overtime for more money; others for extra time off. Some people go to
school to advance in their career, others to prepare for a new career,
and others just for the joy of learning.
I guess what I'm saying is that each of you should sit down sometime and
figure out what you want out of life. Decide what you consider success
and work towards that goal. Don't choose someone elses
definition--decide for yourself. Remember: Everyone defines success
Mark W. Arend
Scoutmaster, Troop 736
Beaver Dam, Wisc.