Scouts-L Mail Archive for February of 1999: Re: JLT last weekend and discipline (Long)
Re: JLT last weekend and discipline (Long)
Mon, 22 Feb 1999 12:13:37 -0800
Kevin Woods <kswoods@CHRISTA.UNH.EDU> wrote (in part):
>It will bother me when some boys leave, but We must look at the good of the
>whole group. We have 1 MAJOR ADHD boy we need to figure out how to deal
>with. He simply cannot control his mouth. And my experience with his
>parents are that they may not help. One consideration was an "aide" as he
>has in school. We shall see.
We have one of those, complete with medication. He transferred into Troop
24 after being in another troop the previous year. Reason given was that
the other troop did not offer First Year-First Class opportunities. When
I spoke to some of the leaders from that troop to explain that I was not
raiding their troop, they said they were not unhappy to be rid of him.
What I insisted on was that he accept the Scout Law as a guideline for what
he could and could not do. He completed Tenderfoot within a month of
joining us, and finished First Class by last December. He really wanted
to be a Den Chief, but I kept reminding him of his promise to abide by the
Scout Law at all times. I wanted him to show me improvement before I would
agree to let him be a Den Chief, because he would be a role model for all
of the younger Cubs. Finally, he had improved in meetings and on outings
to the point where he wasn't perfect, but starting to show that he could
handle himself. Meanwhile, the New Scout Patrol elected him to be their
final Patrol Leader until the troop officer elections in June.
The key in this Scout was that in the 9 months he had been with us, he had
developed a PASSION for Scouting. He wanted to be a Scout more than anything
else, and he worked at controlling himself. His father pulled me aside after
a meeting recently and thanked me for the changes that he had seen in his
son outside of the troop as well as inside. Feeling gratified but sheepish,
I told his father that the changes had come from within his son. We might
have helped, but his son deserved much of the credit.
This all worked in our case because he wanted to be a Scout. And we had
the support of his parents. It might not work with yours if he hasn't
developed that desire within himself or has that support structure.
Alan R. Houser ** email@example.com
** Scoutmaster, Troop 24, Berkeley, California **
** WWW page ** http://www.emf.net/~troop24/t24.html **