Scouts-L Mail Archive for February of 1999: Re: Rough Scout
Re: Rough Scout
Mon, 15 Feb 1999 15:41:15 -0600
>Boy has been in Scouts since Cubs. He is constantly causing trouble or
>getting into trouble at most outings and some meetings. He has thrown
>boys into the mud and ruined their clothes, he has broken a boy's glasses,
>twice, he has locked a boy in the porta-john (snip)
Yep. Had one (or more) of those boys!
>How much and how long should this be permitted to take place?
>His actions have a few parents concerned. He is about 11 or 12 and large
>for his size and not sure if he knows his own strength.
>We needs some wise words of wisdom..quick+ACE-
Well, there's certainly no quick fix. As long as scouting is for boys who
need it, there are gonna be boys like this in scouting. You are right to
demand that scouting be a safe place for the rest of the boys. You just
can't shelter boys from ALL undesireable behavior in others.
Problems like the one you post are really difficult to reply to since none
of us is there on the spot, observing the boy, understanding YOUR
But one thing that I've kind of observed is that for every undesireable
trait in a boy, there's usually a reason for it. And if you look for the
reason hard enough....observing, talking about the trait with the boy,
you'll usually find a way to counteract that behavior. Most of the time,
it means giving the boy praise and responsibilities. Put a disruptive boy
in charge and you've stolen his thunder....you know the bit. If a boy is
out of control, put him in control! Now to be sure, he needs to understand
that being in control means carrying the RESPONSIBILITIES of being in
control. In the case of this boy, it might mean that you put him in
control BUT give him feedback HOURLY for the first few days....you know,
"Hey, you did great on getting scouts to get to Flag on time, now how do
you think it looked when you blew up at Johnny after dinnner? Is this how
you plan to handle breakfast?" Most boys want to earn your praise and
respect. You just have to show them how.
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