Scouts-L Mail Archive for November of 1998: Re: To BOR or not to BOR?
Re: To BOR or not to BOR?
Wed, 4 Nov 1998 10:08:57 EST
I don't think that any of us should make a decision on whether to hold a BOR
for a scout based on one incident. Yes, the two scouts did not show up, but
they were not specifically asked to attend. A scout from each patrol was
supposed to be there. Was it the patrol leader's responsibility to get
someone there? Yes, but did the SPL follow up to see who was coming? Have
these two scouts been good leaders during their required time? If so, perhaps
this would be a good topic of conversation for their Scoutmaster's Conference
prior to their BOR. Let's not punish our youth. Not very much is learned
other than a pattern of behavior that if I do something wrong, I will get
punished and the situation is over. I feel that lit is better is to sit down
with a youth and discuss the situation, finding out what really happened and
to discuss the implications of his or her actions or failure to act. This
way, we are teaching our youth that their decisions really do have an affect
on them and others. I know that I have become more of a "touch-feely" type
person in my old age (not bad for an Vietnam era Airborne Ranger), but it
seems to work for our crew. The youth members understand that when things go
wrong, that they need to take responsibility for their actions.
Advisor, Crew 1519