Scouts-L Mail Archive for October of 1998: Re: Mess Kit Knife
Re: Mess Kit Knife
Wed, 28 Oct 1998 10:50:11 -0500
Dennis Bastarache's question about an incident on a campout and
the resulting "adult" fallout brings to mind one important (to me
any way) aspect of such a situation. As a leader we need to bring
such an incidents to an end.
Any young person and most of us grownups, too, can suffer a lapse
in emotional judgement. Stuff happens. That's a fact.
As the people in the field all we can do make our best judgement
in a real time situation and muddle through. From what Dennis
wrote it sounds,to me, like he did just fine.
His main problem now seems to be the Mom who won't let go. In our
troop we had a similar situation. A meeting of with all concerned
sitting around a table was held. Everybody was given a chance to
speak their mind and offer/accept appologies as appropriate. The
meeting leader needed to prompt some appologies. As a closing
to the meeting the leader pointed out the the discussion had
been completed, appologies made and plans to correct the situation
had been made. The leader then pointed out that as we left the
table the incident was over! Perhaps a similar type of meeting
will help Dennis resolve his situation.
Even when dealing with Scouts who have a disagreement at a meeting
or on a campout I generally ask them to shake hands and with that
action end the disagreement and consider it to be OVER.
Yours in the spirit of Scouting,
Dan O'Canna Lexington, Kentucky