Scouts-L Mail Archive for October of 1998: Re: Tourette
Fri, 23 Oct 1998 21:07:28 -0400
Jim Miller Sr. wrote:
>... As usual, the media did a cursory examination of the issue.
Thank goodness for that...the media could have had a field day with this
type of thing. I was glad to see that they presented the issue without
too much judgement on their part. I wonder how many behind-the-scenes
personnel had been Scouts as kids and had something to say about the
issue before it went on air...
>The mother came prepared with a set of index cards to which she >constantly referred before speaking. She constantly claimed that her >son was no danger to the other scouts, and justified violent incidents >as normal adolescent behavior which she as a teacher sees every day >among her students. The Scoutmaster described a situation with >repeated violent incidents including one in which the young man took a >pioneering pole and swung it around at the other youth in the troop.
>From the information provided, it is hard to know who is right, >however,the impression given was that of an overly indulgent mother, >and a Scoutmaster who was unwilling to assume the liability potential >in being responsible for a boy who engaged in violent behavior on a >regular basis.
I, too, had the same impression...that of a mother/teacher with a child
with a disability that routinely overlooks his behavior and attributes
it to the disability. How convenient it is to have a label to hide your
child's faults behind, huh? My son is hearing-impaired, but that is
certainly not a factor for his misbehavior or for knowing the difference
between right and wrong or for following directions given to him by an
adult or leader. It is, however, a contributing factor of the many
times he has been set apart and picked on by other children. We all
know that the kicking incident is typical of behavior of this age group.
> Frankly, if I was the Scoutmaster, and the parents refused to do
> anything about behavior of that sort, I think I would be out of there
> also. Too bad we'll never know the whole story.
I wondered if the father had been active with the troop and had been out
with them on camp-outs to witness his son's behavior? The Today Show
bit wasn't clear about that. Hmmm... I wonder if this would have helped
the situation had the father or even mother offered to go on camp-outs
with the troop to handle her son when needed. I used to regularly go
camping with our troop, so I feel that one of them could have gone as
well, knowing that there were problems that needed to be dealt with
while out in the woods.
One other thing that struck me was that (somewhere along the line I
understood that) the troop had only been together since March? Too bad
to be hit up with such trouble so early on. If the leaders and boys had
been together as a unit longer, I feel that they may have had more
experience to draw on to iron out these problems. And who knows? How
did the troop committee, other ASM's, and other involved adults act?
We've all seen in here from time to time problems that need to be dealt
with when committees, SM's and ASM's don't all pull the load in the same
direction. I wondered if this could also have happened in this
Anyway...those were my thoughts about the thing, for whatever they are
Betsy "Beaver" Miller, RN, ASM
Troop 321, Tifton, GA