Scouts-L Mail Archive for October of 1998: Re: Need some insight - New SPL whose dad is Scoutmaster
Re: Need some insight - New SPL whose dad is Scoutmaster
Tue, 6 Oct 1998 00:35:08 -0400
> Our troop just elected the Scoutmaster's son as SPL.
> Dad, the Scoutmaster, is concerned that the boy is not mature enough for
> this job. Please offer whatver insight you can, to help Dad through this; and perhaps
> some insight to advise the Scout in his behavior and response to his Dad.
I don't have time for an in-depth reply, but just quickly reading your
note and from my own experience, I can tell you something that helped
with my two sons...
When I joined the troop, the SM came and told me that he thought that my
boys needed to break with their mother and that Scouts was the was that
they could cut the apron-strings, so to speak. Anyway, we remedied the
situation by having my sons call me "Miss Betsy" just like all the other
boys did whenever we were at a Scouting event.
It wound up serving three purposes: First, it helped them to see me as
another adult and not just as "Mom"; second, it helped me to see them as
young men apart from me and not just my sons, and third, fairness issues
were much easier to deal with while we were out with the Scouts. They
weren't so quick to come to me and get me to help them 'cause they were
my sons and they saw themselves as members of the team instead.
Betsy "Beaver" Miller, RN, ASM, Troop 321, Tifton, GA