Re: Leader Conflicts.
Greg Hunt (gchunt@MINDSPRING.COM)
Mon, 14 Sep 1998 20:27:46 -0400
Had this one in our troop - screaming matches, crying and fits. Cubmaster
and his wife the committee chair vs. the den leader/awards chair.
I noticed that when the fights were really bad, there would be a few
minutes when one or the other would talk about quiting the pack. At one
point I seized the opportunity to say don't do that and sold them on the
idea that they would get more out of scouting by helping me as assistant
den leaders - do jobs directly with the boys and be a little removed from
the politics. So far I've been able to find roles that keep them away from
each other most of the time and have been able to control the environment
when they are near each other. Not a great solution but we've got their
great kids and they've been better in their new roles that they were in the
WDL Pack 1714, Marietta, GA
At 08:28 AM 9/14/98 -0500, you wrote:
>I'm looking for advice on how other folks would handle this situation. I'm
>a brand spanking new Committee Chairman for our Cub Scout pack, and need
>all the advice I can get.
>Here's the situation.....
>Our Charter Org Rep is very involved in the pack and the troop here. She's
>been in scouting for 25 years so she knows her stuff and has been an
>invaluable source of information to me. She's also very involved at the
>district level and the council. She's rather opinionated, since she's been
>in it for so long and sometimes her words can be taken as a little
>abrasive. I tend to blow this off, however some people take offense.
>About a month ago, one of the troop Moms had a problem with the troop
>leaders and with the above mentioned Charter Rep. Big falling out, nasty
>words flying etc. etc... This Mom is also a den leader and an active
>committee member for our pack.
>Being somewhat naive, I thought that perhaps all of the troop conflict
>would not disrupt anything going on with our pack. Ha!
>Now, this Mom refuses to come to the committee meetings if the Charter Rep
>is going to be there, and has been rather difficult in other situations as
>well. Almost like she's punishing me for her conflict with the troop.
>I've thought about bringing it up at the committee meeting and asking that
>people involved with the troop and with the pack please call a truce and
>try to tolerate each other for the packs sake. However, I feel a little
>uncomfortable doing that, as I've tried to play Switzerland through this
>whole thing, and cannot afford to lose any leaders right now.
>As if that werent enough, I am in serious need of a Wolf den leader. The
>above mentioned Mom has found someone that will take a den, however, she
>also does not take too kindly to the Charter Org Rep. She has offered to
>take a den under the conditions that she does her basic training at home on
>her own and she will also not be attending committee meetings. (Our
>Charter Rep also does the Basic Training class) In essence, they want me
>to sneak this other leader in without the Charter Rep knowing about it.
>Thats not possible for one thing and frankly, I think its rather childish.
>I really need to get this whole thing straightened out, as the current den
>leader (and upset Mom) is beginning to tell everyone her point of view and
>dragging other people in on it. Obviously, something needs to be said or
>its going to balloon on me. When I became Committee Chairman, I had big
>visions of having this wonderful, enthusiastic pack. But now I find myself
>"tiptoeing" around trying not to offend anyone. And frankly, I'm tired of
>I guess I know what needs to be done, I'm just looking for a tactful way of
>doing it without offending anyone enough to make them quit. Any ideas?
>Prescott, Wi Pack 133
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