Re: Cub Rank Advancement
John and Bernadette Curry (bernadettejohn@SPRYNET.COM)
Mon, 14 Sep 1998 11:02:23 -0400
My son wanted to work on his Wolf achievements and electives as frequently
as we did family activities in Tigers, but I spent the summer "between"
Tigers and Wolf reining-in my eager son.
My son earned his Bobcat in September (and received it at Tiger Graduation
with some kids who were given it). He helped two Scouts in his Wolf den earn
their Bobcat badge by drilling them and making word searches and word
scrambles for them to work on. He agonized with his buddy from Tigers who
was not advancing toward Wolf (one of the give-away Bobcats), even inviting
him over to the house to work on achievements with me when his mom and dad
couldn't get to it. He advanced with the "first" of his den to make Wolf
(November), 3 months after he could have. I didn't want him to stand out in
the "den". I didn't want parents to think that it was only because he was a
Leader's son. He never understood why I held him back and didn't recognize
his hard work. He received only 4 arrow points (1 gold 3 silver); It could
have been 6. Scouting nearly lost him because I was afraid of appearances.
I learned a hard but important lesson. He still doesn't trust me not to
stand in his way; I hope someday he gets his enthusiasm back, forgives me
and gains back the momentum that he had in this important part of his life.
There are as many opinions on this as there are leaders with sons. This is
mine: I won't hold him back again, but I won't push him forward faster than
his best allows either (I am harder on him then his den leader). He did his
best, but I didn't do what was best for him. It comes back to the one thing
we as leaders need to remember - "for the good of the boys". Yours, mine or
theirs - each boy is an individual and we must do what is best for that one
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City