Time to Train
James H. Moss (JHMoss@LAWYERNET.COM)
Thu, 10 Sep 1998 13:44:50 -0600
This is not a critic in any way shape or form, hopefully an idea.
I used to get frustrated when I couldn't help a youth reach my expectations
of them. Nothing wrong with that, I thought I could see what they could do
and it was my job to get them there. Consequently I found myself frustrated
I switched to looking at how far they moved from where they are. I changed
from looking at a half empty glass to a half full glass. It worked in a
couple of ways. One, it kept less pressure off me and the kids. And two,
it allowed me to enjoy the accomplishments I made.
It also had an even greater result. When ever I set a goal or try and
evaluate how a kid should reach a goal, I always set the path to that goal.
I, of all people, should understand that not every kid takes the same path
to the same place. Consequently I was frustrating the kid in trying to help
them step by step to the goal. By looking at the accomplishments, I allowed
the youth to find their own way. I consequently found more kids reaching
goals and several going beyond.
Like trying to get a cow up a hill. You can spend all day trying to pull
the cow. You can spend 20 minutes walking behind and giving the cow slight
encouragement. (Cows always find the most energy efficient way up a hill-
it may drive you up a wall, but there never erode the hill.)
Just a thought.
Yours in Scouting
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