Re: I lost my temper ...
Doug Roach (djroach@IX.NETCOM.COM)
Wed, 5 Aug 1998 22:13:49 -0400
No sweat, Auntie... you done good.
This may very well be the occasion that this boy remembers 10 years from
now as a real coming-of-age experience. Hey, we can hope, right?
Like Bob Morehead so aptly put it:
"...American parents, either convinced by pop psychology quacks that
discipline is abuse or completely indifferent to their own
responsibilities have produced an entire generation of kids who don't
accept responsibility and see no reason to do as their (sic) told."
While I'm not yet convinced that an entire generation is to be written
off ;-) I do agree with his main point which is that the problem you
elucidated is NOT yours... it's his and his parents.
Your response to the torment that you iterated in your initial post was
measured and tolerant. You gave the boy every opportunity to perform the
functions on his own. The final event of the grabbing him by the
shoulders and pointing him in the direction of his chore was nothing to
be losing any sleep over. I daresay, many of us here would have lost it
long before you did... (I suspect I would have...and it may not have
While the response of the boy's mom was encouraging, this incident
should nonetheless provide an excellent opportunity to reiterate to ALL
the parents of the Troop that we aren't in the business of curing
someone else's kid of his inadequate social skills. At the first
parent's meeting of the year, I would relate the tale you told us (sans
identification of the offender... as if they won't guess) and remind all
present that such behavior will not be tolerated. That's standard
procedure in our Troop-- particularly for the newer parents. If a boy
exhibits such tendencies and such behavior throughout the year, he and
his parents should be apprised that he is not welcome on such a trip as
summer camp where mom & dad can't be called to pick him up. While a
seemingly drastic measure, it should be the concern of all of us that
one boy not be permitted to wreck the experience for the rest.
Think about it. Of all the experiences of your summer camp week, what
single event stands out as defining?
It may not be pleasant, it may not be fair, but I would assume that
little Montegue and his week-long antics may be what you remember about
YOUR vacation week this year. Real pleasant, huh?
How do you think the REST of the boys felt?
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