Scouts Who Don't Care
Anthony J. Mako (ajmako@NLS.NET)
Thu, 6 Aug 1998 02:32:10 -0400
I encountered a rather nasty situation at our meeting tonight. I have two
Scouts who are brothers. One, the youngest has ADD and occasionally shows
signs of Torretts. His brother is older by two years. Both have very little
self-discipline, pay no more than lip-service to Scouting ideals, and have
no respect for peers or adults (including their parents). To some they may
sound like lost causes, but I have never felt that way. At least until this
evening. For the most part, they have shown improvement since they joined
the troop. The older of the two even showed signs of some excellent
leadership qualities at summer camp.
I have managed to calm down the younger Scout over the last couple weeks,
but I still have to watch him like a hawk to ensure he doesn't try to walk
home if he becomes irritated. The older Scout has recently shown more
interest in Scouting, but has also shown a tendency to be more violent
toward his brother. This evening, on two occasions, myself and one of my SAs
attempted to talk to this Scout about his violent outbursts and were totally
ignored. After the second occasion, I quietly mentioned to the Scout that
the SA wanted to talk to him and was answered with "No, I don't want to."
As we were cleaning up after the meeting (after at least two more attempts
to stop his activities) I confronted him the only way he left for me.
Directly, and openly in front of several other Scouts. I was calm, but firm,
and explained to him that the next time I caught him hitting his brother (or
anyone else for that matter) his parents would be called. His response was
"I don't care." I am nearly at a loss with this Scout. I don't want to give
up on him because I've seen what he's capable of. I also don't want to give
up on his brother, but all indications are that if one goes, so does the
Right now, I'm trying to work out what to say to the boys' parents as I feel
the next step is to meet with them and talk about the situation. My problem
is that I've never been in a situation quite like this before. I've dealt
with a lot of "problem" Scouts before but none like this. Of course, my
problem is complicated by the fact that I don't want to give up on this boy.
So, here I am asking the list for any ideas.
Anthony J. Mako, firstname.lastname@example.org
Scoutmaster, Troop 381
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