I lost my temper....mea culpa "done that"
Barry Runnels (barry_c_runnels@MMACMAIL.JCCBI.GOV)
Wed, 5 Aug 1998 14:50:31 -0600
>So my question: Do I
>1) Submit my resignation for resorting to physical actions in a moment of
>2) Stop being so hard on myself and try to forget it even though I know
>the boys won't?
>3) Bring it up in Sept when the troop restarts?
>4) Apologise again to his parents (who are wonderful people and wake up
>each day saying "Today will be different" with this boy <G> Really. )
Hi Auntie Beans
These situations happen to all us. It's a natural reaction to frustrating
circumstances. I don't know if the Scout learned from the experience but I
can see you did. Any time we react to a Scout in anger, it's a time for
concern and reflection. What did the Scout learn from the situation? Was it
a positive or negative lesson.
I find myself in many such situations asking the same question. I once
angrily chewed out a life Scout for disrupting his Patrol during a Troop
ceremony. He deserved to be reminded about his improper behavior, but in
front of his Patrol and friends? Later I sat down with him and apologized
because I was out of line for not discussing the problem in private. I was
humbled, but what really bothered me about that situation and others like
it is that I have to spend more time explaining my incorrect behavior than
talking about his.
The reason for the existence of the BSA is to improve behavior by
submerging boys to an atmosphere of positive role models so they can
witness the proper behavior that helps them grow in a positive direction.
When we adults behave incorrectly, we are then challenged to grow
ourselves. I like to remind our Troop adults and myself as often as
possible that if we expect our Scouts to grow in character and leadership,
we also must expect ourselves to grow. Growing in Character doesn't stop
at age 18. In fact the burden of learning is greater on our shoulders than
the Scouts. Not only should we expect to learn along with the Scouts, we
need to expect to learn more than the Scouts. We all make mistakes, but
how we react to those mistakes is our show of character and our integrity.
The only actions the "Eight Methods of Scouting" require from adults is
Role Modeling which is by far the most important job any adult could have
with young people. So whether you choose response 1, 2 or even 5, remember
the Scouts are watching and learning. We all should grow from your
A Humbled Scouter many times over
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City