Re: I lost my temper....mea culpa (long)
Pam Glidden (pglidden@YAHOO.COM)
Wed, 5 Aug 1998 09:39:01 -0700
Good Morning Auntie Beans,
At last, a topic that falls right into my field of expertise! I am a
CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder) Chapter
Coordinator as well as my scouting jobs. I commend you for not
whacking the young man with the broom! It can be very frustrating
working with our ADD kids. Usually ADD/ADHD does not occur alone,
there is usually an accompanying disorder(we call it a co-morbidity).
These can vary: such as learning disabilities, obsessive compulsive,
or oppositional defiant disorder. It sounds to me like your scout had
a touch of the last one. That makes him especially trying to work
with. I have put out a call, on the line for Chapter Coordinators
across the nation, for someone local to talk to you and maybe offer
some tips on how to best work with this young man. As someone else
wrote in, this scout really needs our program. I hope that you will
stop beating yourself up! I'm certain that he has had much worse
treatment elsewhere. I would suggest that the best way I know of to
get them to do something is to be very explicit in directions.
In other words, "Aloysius, I want you to go pack your gear and sweep
out your tent. I need you to be done in 15 minutes. If you are not
done in 15 minutes, the consequence will be --- (some kind of natural
consequence). Follow it up with some observance to make sure that he
stays on task and one or two reminders if he isn't. If he's not done
in time, enforce the consequence. It's the only way he will learn!
It's important for you to know that ADD kids usually can't manage to
remember too many sequences also. So my suggestion is to not give him
more than 2 things to do at a time. On a further note, was he taking
any medication? If he was on what we call a medication vacation, he
may have really been having a very hard time staying focused. If that
was the case, the parents should have told you what was going on!
There are some tricks to handling ADD kids that really work,
unfortunately not everyone knows them. I have been working in my
council at training leaders in these skills. Our training team is in
the process of trying to get a video of our training skit made for
submission to National. We want it to be available to everyone.
Good luck in the future, Auntie Beans! I'm sure that the scout
appreciates your care. He just isn't showing it yet. They usually
are very immature for their age also. I'll keep you posted when I
hear back from the Coordinator's line. Sorry this was so long.
Green River District
Chief Seattle Council
South King County CHADD Chapter
PS- I also like the idea of turning this into a SM Minute. The other
scouts probably would benefit from the knowledge that an adult leader
can make a mistake and admit it, as well as an opportunity to
understand how ADD affects a person.
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