Re: I lost my temper....mea culpa (long)
Steven G. Tyler (sgtyler@EROLS.COM)
Tue, 4 Aug 1998 23:13:24 -0400
Wendie Howland wrote, in part:
> Aloysius: "You never make anybody else..." and that's as far as he got,
> because I grabbed his shoulders, stood him up, took off his backpack, put the
> broom in his hand, and turned him in the direction of his tent., with some
> loud words about how I didn't want to hear it anymore.
> Stunned response from a few, mostly "It's about time" looks from the others,
> especially the very long-suffering SPL.
> I go off to deeply regret having laid hands on him, while simulataneously
> trying not to congratulate myself for strangling him on the spot. While
> beating off the SPL and half the troop from assisting.
> So my question: Do I
> 1) Submit my resignation for resorting to physical actions in a moment of
> 2) Stop being so hard on myself and try to forget it even though I know the
> boys won't?
> 3) Bring it up in Sept when the troop restarts?
> 4) Apologise again to his parents (who are wonderful people and wake up each
> day saying "Today will be different" with this boy <G> Really. )
> 5) Or...?
I vote for 2a): Stop being so hard on yourself and accept the fact that
sometimes a direct physical reaction is worth a thousand words.
Now, if you had taken a trenching tool to the miscreant, I might have a
different response, AuntieB, but from where I sit, your response was,
under the circumstances, appropriate and proper. I am *not* an adherent
of the "spare the rod" school, but there are times when only a direct
physical response to the type of behavior your Scout was exhibiting is
able to "cut through the crap" and get the message to him.
I know, I know, YPP and potential litigation, but sometimes we have to
do what we have to do, and grabbing an insubordinate Scout by the
shoulders, taking off his pack, and aiming him in the right direction
does *not*, IMHO, come even close to requiring 1), 3), 4) or 5). Well,
perhaps 3), as long as it is not intended to be an abject apology -- at
most, an explanation of what took place, and how it could be avoided in
FWIW, I *do* suggest a SM conference with Percival -- with his attitude,
I'm not sure Scouting will do him much good as long as everything that
happens is "someone else's problem." In my book, this Scout should have
been kept on a short leash, with clear up-front explanation of
acceptable conducts and expectations, and being sent home if he failed
to abide by those guidelines.
BTW, if others (such as the Scout's parents) have any concerns, I think
an explanation of the circumstances and expression of mild regrets that
the matter was allowed to get to that point, should suffice.
YIS, Steve on Cattail Creek <Steven G. Tyler>, Severna Park, MD, USA
"The Computer Counselor," Technology Consulting for the Law Office
Advancement Chair and de facto Webmaster, Troop 339,
Baltimore Area Council, BSA (http://members.aol.com/troop339/)
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