Re: It's a mess!
Anthony J. Mako (ajmako@NLS.NET)
Tue, 30 Jun 1998 23:23:04 -0400
Mom has to learn to let go. While it is nice to see she is interested in
what her son does at camp, she must realize that her actions are not
helping. What she IS doing is undermining everything Scouting is trying to
do for her son. She is showing him that she doesn't trust him to take care
of himself; that she doesn't trust any of the troop's leaders to make sure
he is safe. By doing everything for her son, she is making it difficult to
teach him to be self-sufficient.
I certainly don't envy the job ahead of you. The parents of the four first
year Scouts I took to camp last week were actually eager to send their sons
to camp. None of them had any plans to "rescue" them during the week. I did
have a couple incidents of Scouts threatening to call home to have someone
come get them, but after a few minutes discussion with Mr. Mako they changed
their minds. In fact, only one Scout left camp early and that was due to
what we thought was heat exhaustion (turned out to be a stomach virus).
So, what magic words do I have? Simply put, my Scouts were told as soon as
they got to camp that no Scout could use the phone without my permission.
That's a camp policy. Even if they could get to the phone, I still have to
sign them out of camp which gives me a chance to talk to the parents.
Parents like the one you spoke of usually need to have Scouting explained to
them better. Once she understands that her actions are not helping her son,
she may be easier to deal with. Personally, I would sit down and explain to
her what is expected of each Scout, and parent. I would also let her go to
camp with you as long as she promices to treat her son the same as she
treats every other Scout in the troop. You may find that she is no longer
willing to drive four hours back and forth to camp every day.
Anthony J. Mako, email@example.com, Scoutmaster, Troop 381
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