Re: It's a mess!
G. John Marmet (GMarmet@AOL.COM)
Tue, 30 Jun 1998 10:44:18 EDT
Regarding the Mother hen who makes up her son's cot in the tent.
Maybe the answer is time. Two events have either happened with this parent or
are about to happen. I would work on it over the whole year and see what
happens. I have had boys come on their first campout with their dad, and have
dad bring this huge family tent, for him and his son to sleep in. First thing
is that the boy can't possibly put up his tent (which we want the boys to do);
the second is that the boy is led by his father, not the SPL. But over time
this disappates, first as the dad can't come to all the campouts, and second
as the dad (or mom in your case) begins to see how things are run, and begins
to have trust in the leadership.
I think this last point is key. Mom is fearful for her son. Perhaps (no
guarantee of course) over time she will have faith in your adult leadership
(probably too much to ask that she have faith in your boy leadership) so that
she will let loose the apron strings. I have seen that happen more than once.
Mom turns to you and says: "I wouldn't let him do this thing, but you are
going and I trust you."
Give it a little time. It may come around, if you are able to convince Mom
that she can trust you. I have a feeling that she will not particularly
respond to logical persuasion, after all you said Dad has already tried.
Yours in Scouting,
G. John Marmet ASM
T156 Glenview, Illinois
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City