Re: It's a mess!
Lawrence E. Faust (lfaust@ATLANTIC.NET)
Mon, 29 Jun 1998 15:41:15 -0400
> Now the problem. Last week we had a new Scout go with us to the
>camp. His parents followed us to camp to look around and were impressed,
>except Mom did not like the fact ...<SNIP>... He told me "I will not be
>prisoner here any longer!!!"...<SNIP>...she started making the Scouts bed
>and folding his dirty cloths...
> Now that would be the end but She and Her Scout are signed up and
>full to go to Camp Alexander in two weeks. I am sure the Scout will be
>happy as a clam this time and will not be able to accuse me of holding him
>prisoner but How in the Sam Hill am I going to be able to keep mom from
>being Mom? Peer pressure is already working hard on this kid. The rest of
>his patrol was making fun and mom thinks she is saving the world from bugs
>and skin cancer and heat and discomfort and she has a Doctorate in
I agree, this mom DOES sound like a problem...and her overprotectiveness
could ruin her son's Scouting experience. Been there, am still there, &
trying to deal with it <GROAN>.
Let me get this straight.. after her and her son's reactions- basic
homesickness- to your first camp, they are BOTH signed up for Camp
Alexander? Well, I guess her motive in this is to be a "mother hen" over her
boy. His is nothing less than commendable (especially for a New Scout) and
I'd be 2nd in line (after you, of course) to give him every possible
I'm not familiar with the Camp [sounds GREAT to me. Got room for one
more? <GRIN>] but if it's at the base of Pike's Pike & after looking at the
camp's topo and aerial maps, my guess is that she'll be pale with horror &
prohibit her son from participating fully in the Camp's program.
It is VERY important that ALL parents know what not only this particular
camp, but Scouting as a whole, entails. Have you put any thought into having
a troop parent's night prior to departure to explain things to everybody?
This might help to allay any fears, get things out into the open, and, at
least, partially defuse the problem without singleing her out. If the other
parents know about the incidents at the first camp, then they may be able to
apply just the right amount of peer pressure to prevent a re-occurrence.
Some questions which MAY provide some direction on how to handle her:
REGISTRATION- Is she registered? Do parents or adult leaders need to be
registered to go to this camp? The camp's website just says "two adults". Is
she one of the two? If so, does she realize that she MUST be there at ALL
TRAINING- Despite her Ph.D in Ed., has she been trained? If not, is
there a chance to get her trained (even with a adjacent District) before
EDUCATION- Has she seen the camp's promotional literature, brochure, or
leader's guidebook? Has she been to the camp's website
(http://bsapikespeak.webstuff.com/cahome.htm)? Has she seen the topo maps,
aerial maps, rules, programs, schedules, and menus on this excellent site?
Is she aware of the physical rigors involved?
OTOH, assuming that she is registered &/or trained (if she needs to be
either) and is fully aware of what the camp entails, might I suggest that
all TROOP leaders/adults participate in a program of their own separate than
those of the boys? With all due respects, it sounds like she'd get more
critical & overprotective if left to her own devices at camp while the boys
are doing their things.
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