Men in GS
Teresa Entwistle (entwistle@EARTHLINK.NET)
Sun, 7 Jun 1998 17:51:13 -0700
Let me just clarify something. Not only are men not allowed to camp in
the same tent as the girls, but neither are the women. So before you
take it too personal, realize all the rules.
And in the same line, not only is a man never to be alone with a scout,
neither is a woman. It is ALWAYS two deep. Let me assure you, half of
these rules are for your own protection as well as the scouts.
If you as a father went on a trip and slept in a tent with all girls,
then one girl accused you of abuse, would you really like to spend your
money and time and reputation defending yourself? I, a female, take
these rules very literally, I don't want to ruin my family's life and be
away from my children all because of an accusation.
And let me tell you how innocent your actions can be and still be
misconstued. My son, daughter and her friend were at the movies, their
first time by themselves. My girlfriend and I both told our kids,
nobody leaves by themselves. When the movie is over, all 3 stay
together and come out together. We were shopping and the movie was in a
mall. We decided to eat there so my friend got a table at a restaurant
and I went to the movies 15 minutes before it was over to get the kids.
Her daughter came out without mine, she was the oldest. When she saw
me, she started to cry because she knew she had been caught. She
started to run away from me, we had never even been closer to 20 feet
and I hadn't said anything. I went and tried to grab her hand because I
didnt' want her to run outside in the dark and I still needed to wait
for my kids. I missed her hand and caught her shoulder.
Well when she got to her mom, she really raised a ruckus about me
grabbing her. It was very accidental and appropriate for the
situation. My best friend did not talk to me for a month after this.
She finally believed what had happened but just imagine if you were by
yourself and a girl accused you of something to keep herself out of
Thank goodness for these rules to protect the adult volunteers. With
these rules, I can always tell a parent, sorry, it's the rules, we both
have to live by them.
Junior Troop 1185
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City