Re: CM Decision-Help Needed
Cherrie Longshore (clongshore@SCRS.STATE.SC.US)
Mon, 1 Jun 1998 11:29:28 -0400
Call a special pack meeting of all parents (scouts and both parents
included). Explain to them the burden, when it falls upon the few to
carry the load when everyone could pitch in a little more of their time
and soar with the Eagles someday! Let them know, that if your few
devoted leaders get worn out, the pack stops. As the parents look down
at their children, especially if they have just recently had a wonderful
packmeeting, ask them how important is it to see those guy advance.
Even consider having an Eagle or an Eagle's parent or Reverend to make
a brief speach.
I know, easier said than done. I'm working on this type of parent
involvement myself. I keep telling myself: "Plan ahead. Lay the year
out for the parents with a rough draft, and after they get the hang of
it, they can modify the schedule of activities as they feel comfortable.
Keep it simple and make it fun for the parents also." Being curious and
using my vacation for the year as a Cub Scout Summer Day Camp Den
Leader, sold me on getting involved. I don't know who had more fun, me
or the kids! I didn't know the Cub-Master was leaving & gone until a
few days before camp started!
Alias: Webelos Den Leader, Assistant Cub-Master, acting Cub-Master and
substitute Den-Leader, custodian, cub sitter, committe member, District
Committee Member, Mother/taxi/Wife/used to be house keeper, and on call
7 days week after normal business hours.....
Pack 114, Blue Ridge Council
> From: Mike Bates[SMTP:mbates@BORG.COM]
> Reply To: Mike Bates
> Sent: Saturday, May 30, 1998 6:43 AM
> To: Multiple recipients of list SCOUTS-L
> Subject: CM Decision-Help Needed
> I am throwing myself upon the collective wisdom and experience of the
> group. Help is needed here. I had the CM job "thrust" upon me last
> month. I was asked to be an assistant CM and at the meeting where I
> yes to that job I was informed that the CM was quitting (immediately)
> and that he would be over to my house and drop off the filing cabinet
> and some boxes of stuff as soon as the meeting broke up. Sure enough,
> minutes later I had a filing cabinet and 3 boxes sitting in the middle
> of my living room. I know that this is not BSA policy.
> I have been my older son's ADL ( Wolves) and DL (Bears). Boy # 2 is
> starting Tigers this year. My husband (Mike) has been my assistant
> year and wants to take over as Webelos DL. He is also doing
> Advancements. Boy #2 deserves the Tag-A-Long award for putting up the
> hours and hours of meetings, discussions, den meetings, and family
> involved this year alone.
> Mike and I are the only ones in the pack who have had any Scout
> training. We have gone to CS Round tables this year and that, combined
> with the training makes us look like we are really "into" Scouting.
> Mike is already over committed (IMHO) with coaching AYSO soccer,
> with Bible study at church, serving as an officer at the same, is a
> member of the Gideons, plus DL & Advancements. He has taken vacation
> leave to volunteer at both the week-long Webelos camping and the CS
> Camp this summer. We are always the last house on the block to get the
> grass cut, if you know what I mean.
> We have had very little parental involvement with the den this past
> year. Mostly because we have met after school ...at the school. The
> sense that I have is that the parents think that is A-OK because they
> don't have to do anything. We had only 3 pack meetings (one was
> a Christmas Party) and did a Pinewood, Scouting for Food, and
> Bowl-a-Ree. All the aforementioned were mostly organized by myself,
> Mike's help.
> There is no real presence in our pack from our chartered organization
> or district comm. or exec. Because I respect the effort of
> I do see I will refrain from criticism of these folks.
> I think this pack is dying in slow stages and I don't think I can do
> what needs to be done. I have some physical issues and family issues
> that I am dealing with. This is complicated. I am losing sleep over
> this and fretting about it daily. My husband tells me that I always
> rise to the occasion and that everything will be fine. His theme song,
> no matter what is going on is "Don't Worry, Be Happy."
> Thanks for you time, if you are still reading this. Any advice or
> dialogue on the subject would be helpful. I will try to be patient for
> now and not load that damned filing cabinet and boxes into the van and
> dump them at the Council office. Wouldn't THAT be pretty :)
> Linda Bates
> Pack 230, Sherrill NY
> Land of the Oneidas Council
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