Re: Embarressed by uniform.....NOT I
Jonathan Dixon (dixonj@ROCOCO.COLORADO.EDU)
Tue, 28 Apr 1998 11:57:40 MDT
Well I have to admit that I am still somewhat self-conscious about
wearing the uniform in public. Not that this keeps me from doing so,
but I can certainly understand some of the heartache it causes the
boys. Especially since I don't have peer groups just waiting to taunt
me mercilessly for any reason they can find.
In a similar vein, when my SPL showed up last week he asked me for
permission to go beat up several kids who called him a "geeky Boy
Scout" on his way to the meeting. While I did sympathise with his
feelings, and figured it _would_ change those guys' attitudes about
what Scouts are, I decided that I really wasn't sure that was the
attitude we wanted to portray. Besides, given the headlines the
"chicken incident" got, I didn't even want to consider how this one
would play out. ("Scout Mercilessly Beats Local Teens"?) We had
talked about trying to get local media coverage, but somehow I doubted
this was really what we wanted. :)
I think a lot comes down to a person being sure about their "place".
For adults, this comes more from the job or the family and less from
wearing the "right clothes". Some teens are comfortable enough in
their own roles that they also can feel comfortable in the uniform
(like a HS sports hero or someone with a lot of self-confidence).
Most teens are highly dependent on others image of them, or on their
image of what others image of them is. So the step of letting others
see them in a Scout uniform is a major one (heck, in many cases
allowing themselves to be seen in the vicinity of a parent is a major
step). I think we need to be conscious of this, and help the boys
work through this to a more mature understanding of themselves.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City