Bob Nix (boomerang@MINDSPRING.COM)
Fri, 13 Feb 1998 20:10:19 -0500
I was asked to speak at our church's Scout Sunday on 2/8. I have included
my notes here. The talk was well received. I had thought about this
material since last summer, and have used variations on this theme a couple
of times. I hope that someone finds this info useful. Please note that I
spoke from these notes without further text. Because I had thought about
the material, I was able to talk "off the cuff" and use this list as a
memory jogger. The talk lasted about 15 minutes. This turns out to be
longer than I intended; I'm sorry. Use it if you find it useful.
- This talk is addressed to the Souts and the Church youth here today.
- You started in Church, and in Scouts, young, excited, heppy
- You were occasionally challenged, learning new stuff
- you were sometimes doubtful, even fearful
- What do we fear? where are our self-doubts? Talking in front of a
group? Walk across a rope bridge? Cook for 10? Clean up after dinner for
10? Tie knots? talk to a girl? Nicely?
- Self-doubt is in every one of us - our parents, our teachers. our
leaders, our friends
- Sometimes we fear that what others think about us is not really "me" -
especially when what I hear is "good stuff", because I am thinking that I
am "not really that nice"
But - Who Am I?
- Every one of us has heard an adult say "Just be yourself"
- But I don't know who I am
I know that I don't try to copy others, but to just be me is pretty tough -
particularly when I might not like myself very much
- so we just drift along, not being much help to others or ourselves
- and because of self-doubt, we don't do smome really neat stuff - walking
the rope bridge, cooking for 10, climb the wall and then repel down, talk
to a girl, speak in fron of a group -
-look aroud the room and inside your mind
- and find someone who you believe is really trustworthy, and STOP - WHY do
you trust that person? What has that person done to cause you to have
trust? Now think again - it is not the words that person used. That
person's ACTIONS made him/her trustworthy.
.... repeat with LOYAL, BRAVE, HELPFUL (runing the entire list will perhaps
take too long, or may be seen as tedious - I did first 3, cheerful, las
- These people are these things to you because of what you have seen them
DO, NOT what you have heard them SAY
So how does this affect me?
- Whatever you do, you will BECOME.
If you dance you become a dancer.
if you climb you become a climber
if teach, teacher
if sing, singer..
---- if cheat, then cheater
---- if steal, then thief
---- if lie, then liar
If today you do these things, then these things are what you become, and
then YOU ARE THES THINGS
- ok, SO YOU STILL HAVE SELF-DOUBT
- but you begin to know who you are -
- I am what I am because I decided to be, and more than that, I actually did-
I became teustworthy, loyal, brave, courteous, friendly, reverent -
- and I developed a set of values which will protect and guide me
Many of you started as Tigers, always ready to play,
then to Cubs, more play, but beginning to achieve,
Then to Webelos, where the requirements were tougher to meet the
requirements of the Arrow of Light,
and a side trip for the God and Family award,
Then to Boy Scouts, where you start at the bottom, and see older boys who
teach; perhaps only one year older than you;
First class in a year or so; then because of two summer camps, you already
have most of the requirements met for Star;
- and you find that being a leader requires that you do more work than
average, because you must do your share, and then teach those younger, and
sometimes do their share
- But Life is a bigger step. You must take ever more challenging assignments.
- Along the way, every step of the way, you had doubts, but yet you took on
- and then for a few, you really made it to the top - all the way to Eagle.
- now, time away; you graduate from Scouting, perhaps to the Army or into
- then marriage and a family; then just six years later, suddenly you have
a little boy who is ready for Tigers.
You have become a lantern, with God's light inside, and Who am I? becomes
How may I help you? And you forget that you have self doubt
because you set standards in your heart, and then rather than talking, you
were a Doer.
Bob Nix, email@example.com
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City