Re: Problems & Pack Policies
Steven G. Tyler (sgtyler@EROLS.COM)
Thu, 12 Feb 1998 17:32:03 -0500
Robert Sheneman wrote, in part:
> We're dealing with two "issues" in our pack at the moment. First, what
> I'll call the "pushy parent syndrome" - A parent who seems to expect
> special treatment for her and her son and tries to become the den
> disciplinarian (to the point of intimidating other parents and boys).
First, what type of Den organization do the parents have? In general,
the two most stable structures are the strong-Denleader model (really,
the "official" structure, where the DL/ADL call the shots, and the other
parents just help out), and the shared-responsibility structure, where
many if not all the parents are expected to, and usually do, help out on
a rotating basis.
If the former, the answer is simple: the DL has to ask the parent to
back off, especially when it comes to discipline. If there is
resistance, the Cubmaster and/or committee should be involved, as
The latter is a bit more complex, since in theory the DL is just one
among equals. In this case, a group-pressure approach may work, where
an adults-only meeting is called to air concerns. Again, if there is
resistance, the nominal DL may need to assume his/her "organizational"
hat, and act as arbiter, and if that is unsuccessful, go to the
Cubmaster and committee.
> Second, a den with several boys who can't seem to get along and don't seem
> to respect the leaders (talking back, even fighting!) to the point where
> other boys want to transfer so they can advance and accomplish something.
First, be sure the leaders have the backing of the pack leadership.
Then, it's a matter of den discipline. There are a number of good ideas
(conduct candle, etc.) for general discipline, but this seems more
specific. Be sure the boys are clear what's appropriate, and what you
will do if they are inappropriate. If they are disrespectful and not
responsive to reminders, I would not hesitate to send the offender home.
A few such, and the boy and/or the parent will eventually get the
Steve on Cattail Creek
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