Re: Scout in Trouble
James D Wellborn 325 795 2010 (WELLBOJ@MAIL.FIRN.EDU)
Wed, 4 Feb 1998 18:59:53 -0500
definitly a wrenching problem...
1. Is there any indication of drug, substance or alcohol use or abuse ?
As painfull as is the possibility in any and especially this
situation, that needs to be discretely considered.
2. Family situation - Has he been supressing the need to establish his own
freedom and identity due to expectations (parent/guardian as well as his
3. Identity ... He's got more than the average bear in experiences with his
peers in a "I can do this" and "I've done what many haven't" and is still
taking some dramatic and life endangering actions to show others a personal
power.... why...why is he presenting such a destructive side of his
His influence on the others is something that can not be ignored,
nor can you cast him out to the wind (otherwise you would have and would
not have asked for opinions...)
Other Scouts see and know. Scouters bite their toung and look to
see if the Scout will recongize where he is and wait to see if he will
recognize his situation and seek a more productive path. That's the tough
part (one tough part) of the job.
I guess I'd do it myself or find the adult (and perhaps the youth)
person(s) who know and/or have been with him and care for him the most and
toss Scouts, school and everything else aside and express your love and
concern for him and the path he's traveling. I wouldn't expell him from
the troop, but would seek to identify and implement options that still gave
him a safe haven when he needed it with the careful understanding that it
must be physically and verbally and behaviorally and ... whatever else
gently the same for every youth there.
As Sifu many times said, "Smother 'um with love..." This is the
time when it's the toughest. It's the time when you have to be the
strongest because right now, others may need to carry him for a while...
best of fortune
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City