Re: Conversation with DE
Craig R. McGarrah (mcgarrah@MINDSPRING.COM)
Sat, 31 Jan 1998 19:44:09 -0500
At 10:36 AM 1/28/98 -0600, Carol Kelley wrote:
>Any advice, kind words to keep me from losing sight of why I continue all
>this would be appreciated. Thanks for listening to the steam releasing.
Wow. I understand what you are going through. The position involves some
frustrating times, to be sure. It sometimes only takes an incident like the
one you had to bring it all out. I think I'd start with wanting to shoot
the DE. He may be inexperienced, though, and from his position it probably
seems that it would make more sense to have someone beg for FOS bucks who
really know the folks (especially if it is not him!). He obviously has
never had to beg for bucks like we do just to keep a unit afloat. Hopefully
he will learn.
Why do we do it? I get that question all the time. I am a 32 year old
single man with no kids. People wonder why I put up with the BS (and I
don't mean Boy Scouts!). Here's why -- the boys.
This may sound obvious, but sometimes it is not. Boys are not always good
at showing their appreciation for what you do. What you do get is often
from well-meaning parents who put them up to it. I would recommend this to
you. Talk to your husband (I am assuming you are a woman, although I do
know some men named Carol) or someone who was a Cub Scout as a youth. Ask
him what he remembers and if he remembers his leaders. He probably will
come up with some stories. He might not remember any names, but will be
able to describe them. He will have some good and some bad memories, but
listen to the feeling behind it. What we do means something in the lives of
these boys -- even if they don't realize it now.
I have been in scouting since I was 11 (21 years -- mostly on the Boy Scout
side), and I have had the fortune of being in this long enough to see some
of these boys grow into men and see what they become. I have had 20 year
olds come to me and tell me how much I meant to them growing up. I have
seen at-risk youth turn into college grads (their talent was always there,
but their self esteem was not). I have seen the children of drug dealers
turn into model citizens. No kidding.
I have been fortunate enough to be in this long enough to see the good it
does -- long term. There is no greater joy in life than to know you have
made a positive influence in the life of a youth -- whether you get credit
or not. When you can focus on that (and sometimes it is hard to, I admit),
it makes little things like an inconsiderate parent, an unruly child,
personal sacrifices, or even an inexperienced DE seem small. Just
remember, whether you realize it or not, you are doing God's work.
Hang in there!
Cubmaster -- Pack 132, Palm Beach Gardens, FL
Osceola Chapter Adviser, Aal-Pa-Tah Lodge #237
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City