Troop Major Problem/ADHAD-ADD-Hyper
David F. Delman (Delman01@COMPUSERVE.COM)
Thu, 11 Dec 1997 09:05:51 -0500
<<---- My Previous note to SPL James ---->>
A little explanation why I was so brief with SPL James
and what I would do as an adult with this repeated situation
that James describes happening in his troop. Otherwise you =
might think I am heartless.
James is an SPL and could be 13 to 17. He is a boy who's
fun in scouting should be to learn, and enjoy in the ways
and methods of personal and group leadership without the
often times extreme hassle us adults face in leading our
fellow adults in business or volunteer organizations.
As a Boy Leader he is NOT supposed to solve adult problems
or become a gang leader i.e. (Boy RunAmok) vs Boy-Led =
Scouting which by the way IS practiced by some troops.
Since this situation in his troop keeps on being repeated
the adults for various reasons haven't been able to come =
to terms with the hard (hard at least to them) solutions
they must accept as modes of operation.
When I last dealt with a boy with ADD or ADHAD, whatever the =
Doctors and Insurance companies come up with next or simply
"hyper" as it was known in the old days I did the following.
The parent or parents first off already told me the boy's =
situation. When he got "hyper" he knew it and was disruptive
as all get out like an engine mis-firing all over the place.
I would go by him and stay with him to see if he could get
control of himself. "You know you are having a problem right"
THEN "You know you are going to have to go home if you can't
manage things better". If needed I might have to physically =
hold him from doing something stupid or just plain wrong. If =
the situation didn't improve FAST the parent would have been
called to take him home immediately. Never Had To but awful =
close as he once laid on the floor and kicked his feet and
arms wildly. When his parent came they knew he had had a =
problem that evening. He always knew and would even tell me.
I make a point not to touch any boy ever, yet in some cases
of safety you have to use that judgment that earned some of
us those grey hairs, older successful children, and leadership
positions with other adults.
I know there is much more to helping this kind of a boy and =
his parents, when he is an occasional boy in a troop, yet =
for a boy-scout or an adult-scout leader there are limitations
and a line that must be drawn for what you expect from a boy.
YiS, IMHO, and may we each attempt to live the SO,SL,SS,SM
Mr Dave (Hawleyton, NY (Susquenango Council=
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