Eagle Wanna be comes home!
David F. Delman (Delman01@COMPUSERVE.COM)
Tue, 2 Dec 1997 08:31:22 -0500
The BoR idea used with a difficult older than most scout
One of the things I just thought of for your bit older
than the rest lad was a BoR I once enjoyed.
We brought in the scout, his chosen parent, and
had several adults have a discussion concerning
his future in the troop. The SM was not included
due to mutual agreement so that some tensions that
seemed to result from the SM's style and expectations
would be seen by boy and parent as troop expectations.
My and Our biggest challenge for the boy in his path to
Eagle was to work with and help the new leaders of the troop
e.g. SPL, ASPL, and Troop Guide to accomplish their leadership
tasks with enjoyment and his cooperative participation. His =
personal challenge was to reduce his pure competitiveness and
become a partner with them.
Sad to say WE never succeeded for this lad. It is my opinion =
that this was due to the Adults who had closed their minds and
spirits years before on this lad. He is still very competitive
respected by his peers, and hard for most adults to enjoy. He =
gave up on Eagle after the adults took him through the gauntlet
a few times. Now if I had in addition used Jason's ideas the =
story may have turned out differently.
But, Hey Linda YOU are the SM, and have that sticking power, you
might just be able to use this BoR to your and his/their advantage
so that your expectations for him are seen by him/them in a different
and better light.
If anyone like that Neil newbie/oldie has any other stories on
how to help an older/competitive scout on the Quest please =
"Ring-that-Minuteman Bell" <A bit of fun for Boston's Neil>
YiS, IMHO, and may we each attempt to live the SO,SL,SS,SM
Mr Dave (Hawleyton, NY (Susquenango Council=
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