Sometimes, the best intentions..
Kim Moye (kmoye@SUN2177.SPD.DSCCC.COM)
Wed, 19 Nov 1997 08:52:29 -0600
Last month, I found out that one of my son's friends was planning on dropping
out of the troop. I talked to his mom and found out that an adult had been
*encouraging* him to go camping. This man, who is a great guy, took the
boy home from a troop meeting and talked to him about his progress (or lack
thereof) in the troop.
The boy came home, and started crying and wanted to drop out of the troop.
The boy, at 12, is most reluctant to camp because of things that happened when
he was younger. When we did the Webelos campout, he wanted to camp, if he
could be by my tent. A tornado watch occured, and we were told to pack it
in. Many boys were afraid, but this kid was terrified.
The adult who took him home basically told him that he would not get anywhere
if he didn't start camping.
I talked to the boy and promised him that I would make sure everyone would
leave him alone about camping. I pointed out that he enjoyed the troop. He
is especially bright, and although he was not advancing at the same pace
as the other boys from our pack, he was having fun. The only drawback he
saw about not advancing was I would not make him a den chief for our pack.
I told him I would find him another troop, if he wanted. I did tell him that
if I pursued it, some of the adult leaders would want to talk to him. He
agreed to that, if he decided to stay.
Unfortantely, due to work, I was unable to pursue this with the individual
that started this in a timely manner. I even debated whether it was my place.
I did see him this past weekend and explained to him what happened. He was
shocked, as I knew he would be.
The good news is that the Scoutmaster talked to him this week and told him
he would make sure that it didn't happen again. He has offered to help by
seeing the boy pitch a tent, and get ready for a campout in his own backyard.
I had contacted a committee member and relayed the information. She, in
turned passed the info on to the Scoutmaster since I would be out of pocket.
I guess my point is, this man was trying to look out for the boys from our
pack. He had the best of intentions, but not knowing circumstances can
have major repercussions. I was angry when I first heard this, because I
thought it should be between the boy and his parent(s), if there is a question
about not advancing. Then I realized the intent.
I know this is long, and I know some will say that I overstepped *my* bounds
in speaking to a committee member, and then talking to the parent. I wanted
to talk to him face to face and not via the phone, so it took longer. Maybe
I should have stayed out of it, but I was grateful when his mom called me
last nite with the news that he would be coming back.
cubmaster/pack 308/allen, tx/circle 10 council
cub rt commish/arrowhead district
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