Re: What would you do (was Re: Quality award questions)
settummanque, or blackeagle (blkeagle@DYNASTY.NET)
Thu, 13 Nov 1997 23:58:56 -0600
LouAnn Walker asked us all:
>Here's a "how would you handle it" type of question for the group. I was
>at a PowWow a few weeks ago and was in a session with a woman >scouter who
had about 5 or 6 quality patches (different years!) strung >down the sleeve
of her shirt--so many that one was on the cuff! I don't >remember her
position in her pack but I think I heard her say she was the >wife of the
>I obviously didn't want to embarrass her and I didn't want
>to sound like "a know-it-all" either. Do you just ignore it and figure
>someone in the pack or council should correct her, or do you "stick your
>neck out" when you see something like this?
Them "Quality patches" (and the Honor Unit patches before that) have always
been a source of "confusion" to say the least, LouAnn....here's how *I*
would have handled it:
"Hi!! I can't help but notice that your Pack, is it?? has been a Quality
Unit for all of those years...how did you guys do it??" I would then listen
to her explain to me how it really doesn't take much to do it and that they
had a really supportive chartered partner, etc. etc....
"I know that I barely know you, but you know that National has changed the
way we're supposed to wear those on our shirts...I know that you would be
pleased to know that now only one of them --the last one, in your Pack's
case, it would be 1996 -- is supposed to be worn. It makes it easier for
parents to sew them on the kids' shirts and all..."
I would either then listen to someone telling me "I have a right to wear
whatever I like and who are you to tell me that" or (in most cases that I've
used this approach) "I didn't know that. I'm glad you've told me that...I
couldn't find anyone to tell me how to wear them all, so I just put them all
on here....I figured that if I was wrong, someone would tell me....but
nobody in my Pack didn't know either...."
To the "Who are you to tell me what I shoud wear or not..." response, my
stock answer is "I'm not saying this...that's what National says. You
wouldn't want to see our military officers and soldiers wear anything they
choose anywhere they want to....that's the same with us...."
If she chooses to attack me personally, I would offer my apologies, thank
her for the conversation, and move on. There's not much you can do to
change minds if they are closed from that point.
My point, LouAnn, is that in correcting someone's uniforming, just like if
you would correct a Scout, you would emphasize the positive and then talk
briefly but to the point about the negative part.....and suggest ways that
it can be worn instead of just confronting people head on saying "You can't
wear that there....it's against the rules!! Citizens Arrest!! Citizens'
Hope that helps you and others out!
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