Re: First Den Meeting
Dennis Haynes (HAYNESNPA@AOL.COM)
Fri, 31 Oct 1997 17:19:28 -0500
We had a similar "opportunity" in the beginning of our Dens.
We started with the candle idea.......it stayed lit until the Den Leader had
to use the Cub Scout Sign 3 times....then it was blown out. This made it
longer for the candle to be completely burned down, at which time a "good
conduct" field trip was planned, and a new candle started. Yes...it takes a
few meetings for this to sink in, but you will find the boys themselves who
want field trips will begin to "police" the den, keeping the others from
acting in an inappropriate manner. We also made sure they understood the
need to give respect to the other boys and leaders, talking only one at a
time instead of all at once.
We were able to get most of their attention, with still a few individual
disruptions, so we also added the following 2 items:
The den leader got some feathers. After "fair" warning, a scout who
continues to act out is given a feather, and has to hold it for the rest of
the meeting. Of course, my son was the first to test this out. It sounds
strange, but the boys REALLLLY don't want to be given a feather, and very few
have been given out. If a boy continuously gets feathers week after week, a
discussion is held with the parent(s) explaining what is going on, and they
are asked for support. If this still does not work, we ask the parent to
attend the meeting(s) with their boy for at least a month to police his
behavior. We make it clear, the meeting cannot be done for the benefit of
the boys and the program if the DL is constantly trying to bring the boys to
order. (No toys, by the way, is a rule!). If this STILL does not work, we
are set to ask the boy not come for a period of time, to be determined by the
DL and the Committee. It has never gotten this far in our Pack. (We do
allow the boys to play tag before and after the meetings, to help "get the
wiggles out.") This routine has been very successful.
We instituted Ethics in Action to begin to teach them respect for others and
Don't be discouraged, though! If this is the first experience these boys
have had with Scouting, they will probably be fine. Just make sure the
"boundaries" are clear in your mind, and properly communicated to the Scouts
and their parents.
I look forward to seeing other comments on this.
Just my $0.02
Cubmaster, Pack 635
Desert PAcific Council
Kit Carson District
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City