Re: Jewelry in Uniform
Paul Ferris (paul_ferris@CYBRZN.COM)
Thu, 25 Sep 1997 09:11:56 -0700
> It is the content of the character, not the outward appearance that is
Bruce E. Cobern said:
> That's certainly true, in theory. Unfortunately, many times decisions
> made about people based upon outward appearances and they never get a
>chance to demonstrate their character. That is something I often tell
>the Scouts. What they wear and how they comport themselves can send
>messages which often are NOT true reflections of their character.
>I had a good friend who started to wear an earring way back when it was
>much more the exceptional behavior. I told him at one point that it was
>a good thing I had gotten to know him before he started wearing it because
>otherwise I might not have taken the time to get to know him. I know
>that the prejudice is mine and is my problem, but that doesn't stop the
>impact it can have on the Scout's relationships with those around him.
>(I currently react similarly to those who wear their baseball caps
>backwards. To me, rightly or wrongly, it conveys a message of an
>attitude. So, given the choice, I tend to avoid those with that kind of
>Just one additional comment about the very often subconscious impact
>certain conduct can have.
Well said Bruce, I agree 100 percent.
When I raised my four boys and six girls I told them that prior to the 1920s
it did not matter much what you looked like, everyone knew your parents,
brothers and sisters and all your relatives. Your character was easy to check
Today, (rightly or wrongly) we must make quick decisons based on what we
see. As you said Bruce, the movers and shakers in todays world don't have
time to get to know you better. The ear ring wearers and cap backwards types
are the first to be weeded out. Do you really want to be one of those weeded
out? All six of mine are college grads and have successful careers.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City