Re: Son of ASM Taking Heat
Robert Gerhard (RAGerhard@AOL.COM)
Wed, 24 Sep 1997 15:27:24 -0400
In a message dated 97-09-16 09:15:33 EDT, you write:
<< The other boys in his patrol are telling him "You don't deserve your rank.
You wouldn't have it if it wasn't for your Dad." >>
This really hits close to home for me. Like many of those on this list, I
was the Scoutmaster's son, and I'm a dad who's the Cubmaster now.
As a Scout, I heard that an awful lot, but only from the new kids. Once they
had been in my patrol for awhile, they knew differently. I got the most
stuff because I worked the hardest. My patrol was not only never beat in
troop activities, but rarely lost at Camp-o-Rees, summer camp events, etc.
More young men advanced in my patrol than any other. When I moved up to
SPL, I heard it even less frequently because more of my fellow Scouts saw how
hard I really worked. And I worked that hard because I felt I had to prove
that I earned everything myself - in spite of my dad rather than because of.
As a Den Leader and Cubmaster, I've warned my son to expect to hear that. So
far, he hasn't heard it - from the other Cubs. Some parents have made the
comment, but those who work most closely with the boys are quick to defend
him and point out that I probably just push my son and participate with him
more than most parents.
If you were to address the patrol directly in this matter, I think it would
do more harm than good. It's a fact of life that your son will hear these
comments. The only thing that will stop them is his demonstration that they
are unfounded. (Although, a good Scoutmaster's Minute should help, also.)
After all, it's not you that signs off on his advancements, it's the MB
counselors, the SM and the BOR.
Cubmaster & Webelos ADL
Pack 83, Ft. Worth, TX
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City