Re: Son of ASM Taking Heat
Steven G. Tyler (sgtyler@EROLS.COM)
Tue, 16 Sep 1997 14:37:32 -0400
First, this is your son's problem, not yours. If you solve it for him
by acting directly, you will only compound the problem and increase the
perception that he's a "papa's boy."
With that said, though, I think a private talk with the SPL and/or SM
would be in order. If either of them can catch the accusation being
made, a simple series of questions to the accussers along the line of
your original post may suffice. If in fact he has completed all
requirements and that is due in part because he has (and you have) been
active, the other Scouts should be admonished to do likewise, perhaps
commiserating with them on the difficulty of advancing without family
support. If their accusations are based on jealousy, perhaps the SPL/SM
can help them see what needs to be done to advance and help them do so.
On the other hand, if YOU have signed off on a significant number of
requirements and/or been MB counselor on a number of your son's MB's,
you (and he) may have fallen into the trap of the perception of
preference. I'm afraid that taint will not go away, which is why I
support the practice of minimizing parent sign-offs for their sons, even
where, as here, the parent may in fact be qualified to sign off.
Steve on Cattail Creek
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City